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Clear Your Mental Space - 清理心灵空间

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Think about the last time you felt a negative emotion—like stress, anger, or frustartion. What was going through your mind as you were going through that negativity? Was your mind cluttered with thoughts? Or was it paralyzed, unable to think?

The next time you find yourself in the middle of a very stressful time, or you feel angry or frustrated, stop. Yes, that’s right, stop. Whatever you’re doing ,stop and sit for one minute. While you’re sitting there, completely immerse yourself in the negative emotion.

清理心灵空间

Allow that emotion to consume you. Allow yourself one minute to truly feel that emotion.Don’t cheat yourself here. Take the entire minute—but only one minute—to do nothing else but feel that emotion.

When the minute is over, ask yourself, “Am I willing to keep holding on to this negative emotion as I through the rest of the day?”

Once you’ve allowed yourself to be totally immersed in the emotion and really feel it, you will be surprised to find that the emotion clears rather quickly.

If you feel you need to hold on to the emotion for a little longer, that is OK. Allow yourself another minute to feel the emotion.

When you feel you’ve had enough of the emotion, ask yourself if you’re willing to carry that negativity with you for the rest of the day. If not, take a deep breath, as you exhale release all that negativity with your breath.

This exercise seems simple—almost too simple. But, it is very effective. By allowing that negative emotion the space to be truly felt, you are dealing with the emotion rather than stuffing it down and trying not to feel it. You are actually taking away the power of the emotion by giving it the space and attention it needs. When you immerse yourself in the emotion, and realize that it is only emotion, it does its control. You can clear your head and procced with your task.

Try it. Next time you’re in the middle of a negative emotion, give yourself the space to feel the emotion and see what happens. Keep a piece of paper with you that say the following:

Stop. Immerse for one minute.Do I want to keep this negativity? Breath deep, exhale, release. Move on!

This will remind you of the steps to the process. Remember, take the time you need to really immerse yourself in the emotion. Then, when you feel you’ve felt it enough, release it — really let go of it. You will be surprised at how quickly you can move on from a negative situation and get to what you really want to do!

——Reference List 《THE BEAUTIFUL ENGLISH·The Philosophic Essays》

回想一下你上次产生的消极情绪,如压抑、气愤或受挫。当你身处那种消极情绪中时,你的头脑里在想些什么呢?你的头脑是混乱如麻?还是瘫痪了,不能进行思考?

下一次,当你发现自己非常压抑,或者极其愤怒,或者万分沮丧时,尽量停止吧。对!就是停止。无论你现在正做着什么,停止手头的工作,静坐一会儿。静坐的同时,让自己完全沉浸在消极的情绪之中。

让那种情绪完全将你吞噬,让自己有一点时间,真实地去感受那种情绪。在这里,不要欺骗自己。用整整一分钟——仅仅一分钟——不去做其他事情,只去感受那种情绪。

当整整一分钟过去,问问你自己:“在今天剩余的时间里,我愿意继续这种消极情绪吗?”

只要你彻底地将自己沉入其中,并真实地去体会它,你就会意外地发现那种情绪很快就消失了。

如果你觉得有必要再将这种情绪断续一段时间,那好,没关系,再给自己一分钟,去体会这种情绪。

如果你觉得自己体会得很透彻了,那就问问自己是否愿意让这种消极继续在你的剩余时间里存在。如果是“不”,那就深呼吸一次,将所有的消极随着你的呼吸释放出去。

这种方法看似简单——几乎是过分地简单了,但是其效果却很显着。通过给自己真正体会消极情绪的空间,你能够真正与这种情绪接触,而不是去压抑它、回避它。给这种情绪一定的空间,给它必要的关注,这样真正使你消除了其力量。当你沉浸在这种情绪中时,就会明白它只是一只情感,就会不再受其影响。然后,你就可以清理自己的头脑,继续工作了。

试试这种方法。下一次当你处于消极的情绪之中时,让自己有体会这种情绪的一点空间,然后看看随后会发生什么。随身带着一张写着下面这些话的纸:

停止。让自己在这种情绪中沉浸一分钟。我想要这种情绪继续下去吗?深呼吸,放松,继续行动!

这张纸会提醒你要做的步骤。需要牢记的是,用必要的时间真正将你自己沉浸在那种情绪之中。然后,当你认为自己充分体会了这种情绪时,就会将其释放——让它真正地从你的心中消失。你一定会惊讶于摆脱消极情绪并着手工作的迅速。

?——摘自《美丽英文全集·哲理卷》一书

作者:Jennifer?Givler(珍妮弗?吉弗莱)?

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